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Heretic
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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 20:58

ask this again in a couple months


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 19:30

Over the years, ive had many times i thought one might work, but the odds are stacked against me. If you wait too long to meet because of money or timing, you... never mind. odds are against ya. thats all im gonna say.


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 19:02

SC, I am a firm believer that anything can work if two people what it to. The key factor is "two people". In my current situation, I am hanging on, but he isn't interested in a relationship, just friends. It's still pretty awesome. When chemistry is right, distance doesn't matter. Maybe I'm a romantic, but I believe there is so little true love in this world, that when you find it, you should hang on to it as long as possible. Even when it ends, I know the feeling will go on for a lifetime. Never had this feeling before.


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 18:18

They can be great, but they can be a huge bummer as well... The last one i was in (5+ yrs ago) was catastrophic..I think we both tried to be more than we were, and by trying we made a mistake changing all we knew, that distance.. Geography was what saved us in the beginning, and in the end when we bridged that gap, its what we looked forward to having once again.. The older i get the more i realize that you do have to follow your heart, no matter how near or far.. Whats a year of trying something you thought youd never do? For me, it wouldnt be worth living a lifetime of regret,to never have tried..


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 18:00

I've had a few, one worked out for a while. But we all know its true that you never really know someone until you live with them..... then the real fun starts!!!! lol YES! Cabooom!


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 17:32

Re: I totally agree with James. When you love each other you just work it out. I always use couples who are separated by being in the service as an example. Or like James, his job takes him all over for days or weeks at a time. You love them, you do it, period. If your heart is full enough you will find a way. BUT, like Cruisin said, if kids are involved, they really need to come first. As to what Swt asks...I agree with that too. I won't fall in love on the computer or the phone. Not happening. Become friends...ok...a relationship? Nada. james77075 write: well... i am in one. and i love it and the lady i am in love with. you see...403 miles,acording to BK, is not that far,even in the rain. every time you see each other it's like you have seen each other in such a long time and soo much fun to get reaquainted. you learn not to take for granted lying next to someone and the next morning,waking up next to her... watching her sleep and all the little things i miss by not being there everyday. 403 miles....its really not that far.



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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 16:05

Re:We had 5 visits thrown in there...most of them a week at a time and then I was ther for 6 weeks for training.....not being nosy...Plain Brown Wrapper says it all....decided I wasn't pretty enough and my age bothered him...wanted a younger woman. We were very close...communicated all day and all evening...but in the end it was not the distance. SwtFLLdy write: Re: Ok help me understand how IMs, texting and e-mails is considered a relationship? I'm sorry but in order for someone to have a healthy relationship they need to be able to fulfill the 5 senses "see, touch, taste, hear and smell" and I don't mean once a month, or once every other month. Without these a relationship is doomed before it has even started. I don't mean to be noisy with this question to you, just trying to understand your view on this subject - what caused the break up? redsunset write: was in one for 8 months...the distance what not what broke us up....it was other issues. The distance was never a problem...not with IM's, texts, emails...



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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 15:50

If it works, relocating is not easy. Especially with kids in tow. Would he be able to move in with you? Less disruption for the kids that way.It is always rough for them to go through alot of change and guy better like the idea of step parenting.


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 15:35

they never work out absence makes the heart grow fonder? no...... absence makes the heart wander.... to someone else


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 15:13

well... i am in one. and i love it and the lady i am in love with. you see...403 miles,acording to BK, is not that far,even in the rain. every time you see each other it's like you have seen each other in such a long time and soo much fun to get reaquainted. you learn not to take for granted lying next to someone and the next morning,waking up next to her... watching her sleep and all the little things i miss by not being there everyday. 403 miles....its really not that far.


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 14:41

HI HD DONT GIVE UP ON MEN ,THERES ONE OUT THERE FOR YOU, DAMN GIRL WISH I WAS IN USA ,YOU SEEM LIKE YOU ENJOY LIFE TO THE FULL, GOOD ON YOU YOU SURE BRIGHTEN MY LIFE UP JUST LOOKING AT YOUR PICS , IVE ONLY HAD 2 RELATIONSHIPS IN 5 YEARS AFTER MY DIVORCE BUT IVE GOT LOADS OF FRIENDS AND THEY MAKE UP FOR NOT BEING WITH ANYONE SO GET YOUR FRIENDS AROUND GIRL, THEY GIVE YOU MORE COMFORT SOMETIMES. TD


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TreasureTheHobo
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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 14:41

Re: I'm here Sweet, I am here. Me too, let's go be ho ho's. I was there in person Swt. I was there for months at a time. And he was here too. Things came up and I had to come back to Cali. It ended up being a very hellish situation with my family. He was trying to hang on to me on one side and they were pulling me with legal issues on the other. It sucked. LOL, guess who lost everyone? Him, my sisters, my brother. It's been a sucky few years here. That old saying you can't please everyone? Waaaaay true. If I had to do it over? I would have stayed put and called my brother's bluff. I would have listened to my b/f. But I had too many things coming at me at once and I just did the best I could. This is the end result. HDsweetcheeks write: I just decided I give up on all men...close, far, on top, underneath...I just want to have meaningless sex with no feelings no nothing..no expectations..where is T I need to hold hands!



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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 14:23

Re: Ok help me understand how IMs, texting and e-mails is considered a relationship? I'm sorry but in order for someone to have a healthy relationship they need to be able to fulfill the 5 senses "see, touch, taste, hear and smell" and I don't mean once a month, or once every other month. Without these a relationship is doomed before it has even started. I don't mean to be noisy with this question to you, just trying to understand your view on this subject - what caused the break up? redsunset write: was in one for 8 months...the distance what not what broke us up....it was other issues. The distance was never a problem...not with IM's, texts, emails...


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 13:15

was in one for 8 months...the distance what not what broke us up....it was other issues. The distance was never a problem...not with IM's, texts, emails...


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 13:14

Treasure I love that pic of you! SC I don't like them. I prefer someone that if I want to do something spur of the moment, I can pick up the phone and they are there. Just my personal opinion.


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 12:53

I just decided I give up on all men...close, far, on top, underneath...I just want to have meaningless sex with no feelings no nothing..no expectations..where is T I need to hold hands!


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 11:19

I know for me they don't work. It seems like things are great during the early stages and working out, but eventually one is going to give up for what ever reason, money, not willing to relocate, etc. A casual weekend here and there isn't a relationship and if people here think it is? Well, either I need to re-evaluate the meaning to relationships or they do.


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 10:57

Re:I have had two. One worked fine except we just realized we were not right for each other. The distance had nothing to do with it. Just an airplane ticket or a road trip. The other was further away and again, the distance didn't have so much to do with it in my eyes as other factors, as the timing of things happening in my life that kept me here, legal issues, and he could not accept that. I said you know, people in wars are separated, I just needed time to get this stuff cleared up. And right when I was ready to make it back there, he called it. I was just weeks away from moving back. Everything I owned was still there. That was the toughest break up of my life. My heart goes where it goes. If it is 2 miles or 2 thousand. But that is me. Not everyone is comfortable with that. Let me qualify that, it does not go where it gets 60 below zero. HDsweetcheeks write: Many have you done this, did it work, what were the poblems, resolutions..is it worth it??



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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 10:45

WHO DO U HUG WHEN YOU NEED ONE.MY GUESS IS EITHER ONE WILL FIND THAT PERSON TO HUG WHEN YOUR NOT THERE. RASCLE


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