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Posted on Tue, Jan 02, 2007 07:27

I am so lost right now ..dont know which way to move..I am so numb...well some of u knew about a few things in my life n one was about my mum...well as I am writing this ..my heart aches so much..I feel my part of my world was shattered...My mum passed away in front of all of her children..it was the saddest day of my life seeing the women who brought me into the world ..n now she is gone ..flock why..to my friends on bikerkiss please be here for me I am not taking this to well to be very honest..I always thought i would be alot stronger women after what I have gone through in my life ..being married..but as i seen my mum life just drifting away I just got weak again ..I am so sorry for not being around but i do hope everyone one had a happy new year n this year i want to work on myself n be a much stronger person..i love everyone one of my bk friends that got to know me a little bit n thanks for being there for me..hugs n kisses Harley..I will be back in order soon

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Posted on Tue, Jan 09, 2007 06:39

This brought me a little peace just after my step father passed.I hope it will bring you some comfort as well.As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.


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Posted on Mon, Jan 08, 2007 16:32

Suzanne, My prayers are with you sweetie. I had to bury my dad on christmas eve. As many times as I`ve been hurt and put back together I just figured I was about as tough as they come. Boy was I wrong. I never cried so much in my life. Bout all you can say is the reason we miss them so much is because they were so good to us. Hang in there


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Posted on Thu, Jan 04, 2007 23:14

My thoughts and prayers are with you girl. I lost my Mom several years ago and it still hurts. I personally almost lost it when I lost my Mom so if I could give you any advise it is to don't let yourself get wrapped up so in the grieving process you don't want others to comfort you. You have to remember to celebrate her life not the pain .


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Posted on Thu, Jan 04, 2007 22:00

Celebrate the good things your mum passed on to you and pursue the happiness she wished you would have. Thats the best way to honor her memory. You'll recognize her in you as the years go by in the way you act and think and the way you look. She will always be with you. xoxo


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Posted on Wed, Jan 03, 2007 21:37

May God Bless you and hold you in your sorrow. My sincerest condolences for you and your family Harley, having lost almost all those that raised me already, I know your pain. Hugs for you - [[{{(((<>)))}}]]


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Posted on Wed, Jan 03, 2007 20:26

Harley,I'm sorry for your loss and really sorry cause it came at such a wonderful time of the year,the Holidays,my heart goes out to you,she will always be there in spirit now,and I know the words you have passed onto all of us here have an impact on all of our lives one way or another and I know her passing will provide you with the strength to carry on and will provide all of us with words from your heart and soul to help us make it through all of our troubled times.Your words and poems have carried so many of us through our own hardships that you may never know but don't stop now because because your words are combined with her spirit.God bless you and yours and always look to the bright side.Luv Ya


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Posted on Wed, Jan 03, 2007 19:58

Happy 2007 for you. I have read a few of your blogs as well as looked at your profile. Hope that you do not mind a recommendation from someone who knows nothing of you but that. Be advised I have lived through a nasty divorce and then the death of my 16 year old son. The thing that saved me was my faith, my family, my friends, and the support of my church groups. Spent a year in the divorce support group and then a year in a grievance group that meant the world to me. Looks as if you have plenty of friends, just hope that you take the time to check out local support groups through your church. They can make a difference and are worth their weight in gold. Your life should go on and as one or more of your Friends stated your lost ones can and should always be with you in your heart. Keep A Smile Jamie


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Posted on Wed, Jan 03, 2007 18:58

Was reading that you lost someone that will never be replaced,I dont know you but I thought I would say Iam very sorry for your loss.I know the feeling all to well,worked with my father for 20 some years and lost him,the hole in my heart will never be filled.It does get better with time so I wish you and your family all the best.


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Posted on Wed, Jan 03, 2007 18:28

Let me know if there is anything I can do to help Harley


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Posted on Wed, Jan 03, 2007 08:41

im very sorry to hear about ur mom ur in my prayers and remember ur mom is never gone she is always in ur heart and when u feel a cool breeze on ur cheek when there is no wind that ur mom kissing ur cheek watching over u telling u shes still with u if theres anything i can do for u a friend to talk to ill be there for u suzanne


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Posted on Wed, Jan 03, 2007 01:35

nothing can stop the hurt, just know you have friends all around who will listen,and can hold the pieces of your broken heart for you until it can heal.


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Posted on Wed, Jan 03, 2007 00:06

There are no words that can take away the pain,The only thing that will do that is time. I lost my sister 4 years ago.She is still in my heart and mind and as long as I keep her there she will always be with me.Keep your moms memory in your heart and mind and she will be with you always. I know you ,your a tough little brat you will get threw this.... My deepest sympathy to you Steph and Jerry


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Posted on Tue, Jan 02, 2007 21:24

ty so much for being here for me n my children n family .. omg i am just so freakin messed up ..i really thought i was going to handle this so well n have myself perpared but look at me..I havent stopped crying for three days ..i think what has messed up my head was when my mum said she was so sorry for neglecting me n my brother ..she was coming out telling all her wrong doings it was so sad..n to fall asleep n never waking up again...she knew she was going to leave all of us ..i just wish she wouldnt have done it the way she plan it out ...i have to say i love you mum n i will miss you so freakin much...love your daughter Suzanne..n i do forgive her for what she has done to me ..love my friends on bk


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Posted on Tue, Jan 02, 2007 21:17

Suzanne, I am so sorry for your loss. But I have to agree with Bob's response. We are suppose to out live our parents and it is a honor. When my little sister passed my Dad took it so hard and said parents are not meant to out live their children. Just before my father passed away he told me it was timeand he would get to see his daughter again, and was happy that I was there for him. Just know your Mother will never really be gone, because she will always be in your heart and wztching over you but just in a much nicer place.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 02, 2007 21:09

here for you.....


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Posted on Tue, Jan 02, 2007 20:32

I AM SO SORRY to hear this and my heart goes out to you and yours, this isn't easy for me to write either, but I want to. Listen Suzanne, as one Suzanne to another (and our sister Suzanne's on here) everyone who has posted on here for you, is totally correct in their thoughts. No its not easy, and yes we are supposed to out live our parents. My in laws don't speak to me anymore because they can't deal with their son's death, going on 9 yrs in Sept.... I can't either but we made a vow to each other to 'go on'. I buried my husband first and my Mother about 3 1/2 to 4 yrs ago and there are STILL days that I have a hard time with. I smell my husband at times when I need to have him by my side. I DO ask questions of both of them...and there are times I 'just know' they are close especially him. My Mother had Alzheimers and even though I had said good-bye long before she passed, I really had a devistatingly hard time when she did pass away. My husbands passing was not totally fast, but was really like an anvil in the face. Came out of no where...he suffered a brain annyureism on the right side, stayed on this earth for 13 days and he was gone. The kids and I were in therapy for a little over a year. Seek out and find a good support group for this. HOWEVER, do it in 'your time'. Took me 2 yrs to come out of my "Widows Fog" and do it, but Honey really, it was the BEST THING I COULD HAVE EVER DONE... You'll be OK in time and yes time does heal and help us along..But you do things and take life in your own time, when you feel you can do this. And for sure, write out, cry out, sing out, meditate, do whatever it takes for ya Babe to make it. And as for those ((((HUGZ)))) Babe, they were ALWAYS and still are the absolute BEST medicine there is around. Laugh and celebrate your Mom.... If there is anything I can do, holler....please...and know we are all here for you! You need it, you ask, by God you got it!!! ((((((HUGZ)))))) Suz~ ;)


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Posted on Tue, Jan 02, 2007 18:56

Harley: Most of us understand the loss of a loved one. Mine was my mother also. My deepest sympathy goes out to you. Do what your friends here have recommended and the pain will become less and less but the good memories will remain. All my sympathy....hugs to you sweetie.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 02, 2007 17:35

Hi Harley sorry here about your mom. Only thing I can do for ya Harley is give you my shoulder, and my ear. You already have my friendship. You know how to get hold of me anytime you wanna chat.


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Posted on Tue, Jan 02, 2007 17:02

We're here for you... Warm hugs and much love are with you at this time.


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