So for the last few months I've been living the Groundhog Day movie. I got dumped by my boyfriend of a year, he had some sort of meltdown and melted me out of his life. Now, everyday I get up thinking "maybe today will be different." Maybe today will be the day things turn around and I'll be riding off into the sunset with a hot biker who makes me laugh and I can be myself around. NOPE!!! Groundhog Day strikes again... Same ole thing, no hot dates, rainy weather (I work in landscaping, so that means no $ for my sportster) and demanding little ones. So, I ran into him yesterday while he was riding his bike. He pulled over and we talked for an hour. It made me miss him more. Now I have to remind myself of what Junie says, make him think I don't need him. Its so hard though. Trying to stay strong. Um yea, well to hell with it all now. My ex is filing to have my child support lowered and refuses to pay childcare. He's been unemployed for 4 months and won't go back to work. I thought my crappy personal life was bad, now I have to deal with less money and more kid time. Makes groundhog day look like spring break!
So for the last few months I've been living the Groundhog Day movie. I got dumped by my boyfriend of a year, he had some sort of meltdown and melted me out of his life. Now, everyday I get up thinking "maybe today will be different." Maybe today will be the day things turn around and I'll be riding off into the sunset with a hot biker who makes me laugh and I can be myself around. NOPE!!! Groundhog Day strikes again... Same ole thing, no hot dates, rainy weather (I work in landscaping, so that means no $ for my sportster) and demanding little ones. So, I ran into him yesterday while he was riding his bike. He pulled over and we talked for an hour. It made me miss him more. Now I have to remind myself of what Junie says, make him think I don't need him. Its so hard though. Trying to stay strong. Um yea, well to hell with it all now. My ex is filing to have my child support lowered and refuses to pay childcare. He's been unemployed for 4 months and won't go back to work. I thought my crappy personal life was bad, now I have to deal with less money and more kid time. Makes groundhog day look like spring break!
Single Parent - Yes, I decided to be the parent. he decided to be just Single.
I am a Woman. He's just the wimp.
He's a man from the waist down. Never found the man from the waist up. Just someone who runs away.
I decided to feed, love and cloth the kid. He decided not to, as he decided not to pay. No matter what they will still get fed, but not by his blessing or his choice.
Get yourself with others. Need others and sisters around you to back you. WORK. REST & PLAY. Indentify and work on your problems. Alocate time in the day when you do (Not all the day) Rest - find things to chill you out. RElaxation tapes, music, Tai Chi - not booze or drugs. No white wine while the kid sleeps. Play - find other things to do which will keep you alive and interested and human. Gives you other shapes and edges to your life. That way you keep rounded and a whole person. Your troubles will not become the whole of your life or your character and bring you down to become a worn out woman.
Keep Well and Stay Happy
JunieXXX
Quoting: Originally posted by gfriedrich Thanks so much! You're a great cyber friend. I'm trying to stay positive but it's difficult when now friends are chosing his side versus mine. I appreciate your support and positive vibes.
Quoting gfriedrich:
Thanks so much! You're a great cyber friend. I'm trying to stay positive but it's difficult when now friends are chosing his side versus mine. I appreciate your support and positive vibes.
Tough
But get your amunition.
Single Parent - Yes, I decided to be the parent. he decided to be just Single.
I am a Woman. He's just the wimp.
He's a man from the waist down. Never found the man from the waist up. Just someone who runs away.
I decided to feed, love and cloth the kid. He decided not to, as he decided not to pay. No matter what they will still get fed, but not by his blessing or his choice.
Get yourself with others. Need others and sisters around you to back you. WORK. REST & PLAY. Indentify and work on your problems. Alocate time in the day when you do (Not all the day) Rest - find things to chill you out. RElaxation tapes, music, Tai Chi - not booze or drugs. No white wine while the kid sleeps. Play - find other things to do which will keep you alive and interested and human. Gives you other shapes and edges to your life. That way you keep rounded and a whole person. Your troubles will not become the whole of your life or your character and bring you down to become a worn out woman.
Thanks so much! You're a great cyber friend. I'm trying to stay positive but it's difficult when now friends are chosing his side versus mine. I appreciate your support and positive vibes.
Thanks so much! You're a great cyber friend. I'm trying to stay positive but it's difficult when now friends are chosing his side versus mine. I appreciate your support and positive vibes.
Good. Now you know that he doesn't care. Not even for his child. Sorry, takes somthing like that to realise You Are the Wonderful One, and he is just a bag of dirt.
No matter what I have always supported my friends kids when their father's did not want to know and nearly been second parent while my friends tear their hair out. If I can do that and they are not even my kids. Even when I was at college and on low wages or even no wages (Once went to a holiday on a wing and a prayer and had a great time)
Doesn't that say where that guy's head is?
No where except in his pants and in his own needs.
I have fed kids on nothing. And loved them with every fibre of my being while being torn apart inside with my own problems.
Sometimes it takes a lot to wake up and realise the truth.
Look after yourself and love yourself need to so it fro yourself and the children. Your focus should be on you not him. The hwo knows you will wake up one day and realise you don't need him.
Good Luck Girlfriend
I'd babysit so you could go out. But I am thousands of miles away.
JunieXXX
Quoting: Originally posted by gfriedrich So for the last few months I've been living the Groundhog Day movie. I got dumped by my boyfriend of a year, he had some sort of meltdown and melted me out of his life. Now, everyday I get up thinking "maybe today will be different." Maybe today will be the day things turn around and I'll be riding off into the sunset with a hot biker who makes me laugh and I can be myself around. NOPE!!! Groundhog Day strikes again... Same ole thing, no hot dates, rainy weather (I work in landscaping, so that means no $ for my sportster) and demanding little ones. So, I ran into him yesterday while he was riding his bike. He pulled over and we talked for an hour. It made me miss him more. Now I have to remind myself of what Junie says, make him think I don't need him. Its so hard though. Trying to stay strong. Um yea, well to hell with it all now. My ex is filing to have my child support lowered and refuses to pay childcare. He's been unemployed for 4 months and won't go back to work. I thought my crappy personal life was bad, now I have to deal with less money and more kid time. Makes groundhog day look like spring break!
Quoting gfriedrich:
So for the last few months I've been living the Groundhog Day movie. I got dumped by my boyfriend of a year, he had some sort of meltdown and melted me out of his life. Now, everyday I get up thinking "maybe today will be different." Maybe today will be the day things turn around and I'll be riding off into the sunset with a hot biker who makes me laugh and I can be myself around. NOPE!!! Groundhog Day strikes again... Same ole thing, no hot dates, rainy weather (I work in landscaping, so that means no $ for my sportster) and demanding little ones. So, I ran into him yesterday while he was riding his bike. He pulled over and we talked for an hour. It made me miss him more. Now I have to remind myself of what Junie says, make him think I don't need him. Its so hard though. Trying to stay strong. Um yea, well to hell with it all now. My ex is filing to have my child support lowered and refuses to pay childcare. He's been unemployed for 4 months and won't go back to work. I thought my crappy personal life was bad, now I have to deal with less money and more kid time. Makes groundhog day look like spring break!
Good. Now you know that he doesn't care. Not even for his child. Sorry, takes somthing like that to realise You Are the Wonderful One, and he is just a bag of dirt.
No matter what I have always supported my friends kids when their father's did not want to know and nearly been second parent while my friends tear their hair out. If I can do that and they are not even my kids. Even when I was at college and on low wages or even no wages (Once went to a holiday on a wing and a prayer and had a great time)
Doesn't that say where that guy's head is?
No where except in his pants and in his own needs.
I have fed kids on nothing. And loved them with every fibre of my being while being torn apart inside with my own problems.
Sometimes it takes a lot to wake up and realise the truth.
Look after yourself and love yourself need to so it fro yourself and the children. Your focus should be on you not him. The hwo knows you will wake up one day and realise you don't need him.
Good Luck Girlfriend
I'd babysit so you could go out. But I am thousands of miles away.
Coming from my own experience - and think of your own.
I really cannot stand a man who wants to wrap himself around me and make me the centre of the universe and whole point of his life with no other interest - or life. It is awful. Like trying to prize off a limpet or an octupus with multiple "emotional" tentacles trying to wind around you and into you. Too intense too invasive. Need a person to be a separate person, standing on thier own world and values instead of agreeing and going along with mine all the time.
GERROFF. Some one get me a crowbar. Had guys who dod not have anything else in their life than me. I had to stab them all to death to make them let go.
He will be interested when you are more interecting.
Sorry. harsh, but true. JunieXXX
Quoting: Originally posted by gfriedrich So for the last few months I've been living the Groundhog Day movie. I got dumped by my boyfriend of a year, he had some sort of meltdown and melted me out of his life. Now, everyday I get up thinking "maybe today will be different." Maybe today will be the day things turn around and I'll be riding off into the sunset with a hot biker who makes me laugh and I can be myself around. NOPE!!! Groundhog Day strikes again... Same ole thing, no hot dates, rainy weather (I work in landscaping, so that means no $ for my sportster) and demanding little ones. So, I ran into him yesterday while he was riding his bike. He pulled over and we talked for an hour. It made me miss him more. Now I have to remind myself of what Junie says, make him think I don't need him. Its so hard though. Trying to stay strong.
Quoting gfriedrich:
So for the last few months I've been living the Groundhog Day movie. I got dumped by my boyfriend of a year, he had some sort of meltdown and melted me out of his life. Now, everyday I get up thinking "maybe today will be different." Maybe today will be the day things turn around and I'll be riding off into the sunset with a hot biker who makes me laugh and I can be myself around. NOPE!!! Groundhog Day strikes again... Same ole thing, no hot dates, rainy weather (I work in landscaping, so that means no $ for my sportster) and demanding little ones. So, I ran into him yesterday while he was riding his bike. He pulled over and we talked for an hour. It made me miss him more. Now I have to remind myself of what Junie says, make him think I don't need him. Its so hard though. Trying to stay strong.
Plus
Coming from my own experience - and think of your own.
I really cannot stand a man who wants to wrap himself around me and make me the centre of the universe and whole point of his life with no other interest - or life. It is awful. Like trying to prize off a limpet or an octupus with multiple "emotional" tentacles trying to wind around you and into you. Too intense too invasive. Need a person to be a separate person, standing on thier own world and values instead of agreeing and going along with mine all the time.
GERROFF. Some one get me a crowbar. Had guys who dod not have anything else in their life than me. I had to stab them all to death to make them let go.
He will be interested when you are more interecting.
In order to pursue (male obsession) you need to be moving away, or at least not staring into his eyes trying to jump into them. I learned from my own experience. If I am too kean or too eager or too giving he moves away. There is nothing for him to do as I am doing everything, no challenger, no trial nothing to win a sit is there on a plate. Don't be a nasty bitch if that is not yoru style. But I certainly notice that men buck up when I bite back. "OooH Your interesting. I thought you were just boring and nice. Do you bite in bed?"
There is a book called "Why Men Love Bitches" and the recent Pulling Power techniques (PUA) for men (sleazes) say that if you don't come on strong and dismiss the person you are aiming at and even frustatingly make to talk to everyone else (their buddies, mother, tax inspector) that that gain interest through frustation. Like straining to get your teachers attention when they keep passing over you.
Not to be a bitch but just wise. Can't be interesting if you are just boring, will only be interesting if challenging. Always look as if you have a life without him or he will know you are just waiting. And anyway, get a life for yourself. Sounds like you need it. Are you really not interested in anything else? - That's SAD.
JunieXXX
Quoting: Originally posted by gfriedrich So for the last few months I've been living the Groundhog Day movie. I got dumped by my boyfriend of a year, he had some sort of meltdown and melted me out of his life. Now, everyday I get up thinking "maybe today will be different." Maybe today will be the day things turn around and I'll be riding off into the sunset with a hot biker who makes me laugh and I can be myself around. NOPE!!! Groundhog Day strikes again... Same ole thing, no hot dates, rainy weather (I work in landscaping, so that means no $ for my sportster) and demanding little ones. So, I ran into him yesterday while he was riding his bike. He pulled over and we talked for an hour. It made me miss him more. Now I have to remind myself of what Junie says, make him think I don't need him. Its so hard though. Trying to stay strong.
Quoting gfriedrich:
So for the last few months I've been living the Groundhog Day movie. I got dumped by my boyfriend of a year, he had some sort of meltdown and melted me out of his life. Now, everyday I get up thinking "maybe today will be different." Maybe today will be the day things turn around and I'll be riding off into the sunset with a hot biker who makes me laugh and I can be myself around. NOPE!!! Groundhog Day strikes again... Same ole thing, no hot dates, rainy weather (I work in landscaping, so that means no $ for my sportster) and demanding little ones. So, I ran into him yesterday while he was riding his bike. He pulled over and we talked for an hour. It made me miss him more. Now I have to remind myself of what Junie says, make him think I don't need him. Its so hard though. Trying to stay strong.
In order to pursue (male obsession) you need to be moving away, or at least not staring into his eyes trying to jump into them. I learned from my own experience. If I am too kean or too eager or too giving he moves away. There is nothing for him to do as I am doing everything, no challenger, no trial nothing to win a sit is there on a plate. Don't be a nasty bitch if that is not yoru style. But I certainly notice that men buck up when I bite back. "OooH Your interesting. I thought you were just boring and nice. Do you bite in bed?"
There is a book called "Why Men Love Bitches" and the recent Pulling Power techniques (PUA) for men (sleazes) say that if you don't come on strong and dismiss the person you are aiming at and even frustatingly make to talk to everyone else (their buddies, mother, tax inspector) that that gain interest through frustation. Like straining to get your teachers attention when they keep passing over you.
Not to be a bitch but just wise. Can't be interesting if you are just boring, will only be interesting if challenging. Always look as if you have a life without him or he will know you are just waiting. And anyway, get a life for yourself. Sounds like you need it. Are you really not interested in anything else? - That's SAD.
Might as well not buy a bike or leave the house before balancing out your deeper inner conflicts and Karma first.
Without challenge, contest and conflict and an impetus to move forward man will die and stagnate. If life did not change and improve you and you did not change or imprve anything in life - Why did you live? Where is your footmark? May disappear with the tide but it would be good to leave one even if it is your organs or blood so someone could live.
Live now. Die later.
Don't give God back his single talent
JunieXXX
Quoting: Originally posted by Acerr1 On the tightrope of life, only one thing allows us to move forward, and that one thing is balance. Without balance we fall into chaos, we fall behind, we miss out on what true choices we have in life. Balance is achieved through awareness. Awareness of what we have on our plate. What is working and what is not. What feels good and what doesn't. Where we are and where we want to be. With awareness, we have choice, the freedom to choose, free will. It is choice that gives us power. Power to choose. Power which is energy. Energy that allows us to move forward in alignment with our choices. We all want to live a full life, and the key to living a full life is finding the balance?
Quoting Acerr1:
On the tightrope of life, only one thing allows us to move forward, and that one thing is balance. Without balance we fall into chaos, we fall behind, we miss out on what true choices we have in life. Balance is achieved through awareness. Awareness of what we have on our plate. What is working and what is not. What feels good and what doesn't. Where we are and where we want to be. With awareness, we have choice, the freedom to choose, free will. It is choice that gives us power. Power to choose. Power which is energy. Energy that allows us to move forward in alignment with our choices. We all want to live a full life, and the key to living a full life is finding the balance?
A balanced life.
Is that the same as a life without Distinction?
Might as well not buy a bike or leave the house before balancing out your deeper inner conflicts and Karma first.
Without challenge, contest and conflict and an impetus to move forward man will die and stagnate. If life did not change and improve you and you did not change or imprve anything in life - Why did you live? Where is your footmark? May disappear with the tide but it would be good to leave one even if it is your organs or blood so someone could live.
On the tightrope of life, only one thing allows us to move forward, and that one thing is balance. Without balance we fall into chaos, we fall behind, we miss out on what true choices we have in life. Balance is achieved through awareness. Awareness of what we have on our plate. What is working and what is not. What feels good and what doesn't. Where we are and where we want to be. With awareness, we have choice, the freedom to choose, free will. It is choice that gives us power. Power to choose. Power which is energy. Energy that allows us to move forward in alignment with our choices. We all want to live a full life, and the key to living a full life is finding the balance?
On the tightrope of life, only one thing allows us to move forward, and that one thing is balance. Without balance we fall into chaos, we fall behind, we miss out on what true choices we have in life. Balance is achieved through awareness. Awareness of what we have on our plate. What is working and what is not. What feels good and what doesn't. Where we are and where we want to be. With awareness, we have choice, the freedom to choose, free will. It is choice that gives us power. Power to choose. Power which is energy. Energy that allows us to move forward in alignment with our choices. We all want to live a full life, and the key to living a full life is finding the balance?
There's lots of men looking women, but not that many looking for you - and that's the one that you want.
Quoting: Originally posted by gfriedrich That is so true. Thank you for being my online mentor. I will re-read this every day to remind myself of what's most important-me.
Quoting gfriedrich:
That is so true. Thank you for being my online mentor. I will re-read this every day to remind myself of what's most important-me.
PS:
There's lots of men looking women, but not that many looking for you - and that's the one that you want.
If no one is coming in doing it for you. You have to do it for yourself. Have to look after and love yourself first.
Have never lived my life round a guy. If they are about and come along FINE. If not. That's OK too. I've got too many other things to do to give to much mind to it.
Can't get out of Groundhog day if your're the Groundhog. Go kick your own Butt.
JunieXXX
Do It For Yourself.
If no one is coming in doing it for you. You have to do it for yourself. Have to look after and love yourself first.
Have never lived my life round a guy. If they are about and come along FINE. If not. That's OK too. I've got too many other things to do to give to much mind to it.
Can't get out of Groundhog day if your're the Groundhog. Go kick your own Butt.
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