Quoting redsunset:

I think you could be right in that observation Charlie.....lots of people with problems, pain, loneliness, whatever...hoping that love will cure all ills.....the person needs to be happy with themselves first andtheir life and look at love as an enhancement...not a replacement.

I think you could be right in that observation Charlie.....lots of people with problems, pain, loneliness, whatever...hoping that love will cure all ills.....the person needs to be happy with themselves first andtheir life and look at love as an enhancement...not a replacement.

Quoting CHARLIEBULL:

I think there are too many people out there so hungry to feel loved that they start too soon to push and they smother the other person. I know that I ALWAYS run from that. I think that some people do that looking to hide from their problems in the excitement of a new relationship

I think there are too many people out there so hungry to feel loved that they start too soon to push and they smother the other person. I know that I ALWAYS run from that. I think that some people do that looking to hide from their problems in the excitement of a new relationship

Quoting redsunset:

Charlie,

I think you are absolutely right. Relationships are hard work....communication, trust, making time for each other, keeping things fresh and exciting.

I was fortunate. I was in a wonderful marriage with a wonderful, warm, kind, funny man for 34 years. I think I can consider that successful.

I have had difficulty being in a positive long term relationship since then...probably for a variety of reasons. Expectations for one.....I had a wonderful relationship with my husband....we supported each other, communicated and loved each other....I want that again....it takes work.

My personal observation is that a lot of people are scarred with things that happen in their lives and either don't truly want to give of themselves completely or don't want to take the time.

Today, society hops into bed immediately and doesn't take the time to develop the connection, the shared interests and values.....focusing on the physical rather than everything else.

'Course...I'm old , so what do I know...lol!

Charlie,

I think you are absolutely right. Relationships are hard work....communication, trust, making time for each other, keeping things fresh and exciting.

I was fortunate. I was in a wonderful marriage with a wonderful, warm, kind, funny man for 34 years. I think I can consider that successful.

I have had difficulty being in a positive long term relationship since then...probably for a variety of reasons. Expectations for one.....I had a wonderful relationship with my husband....we supported each other, communicated and loved each other....I want that again....it takes work.

My personal observation is that a lot of people are scarred with things that happen in their lives and either don't truly want to give of themselves completely or don't want to take the time.

Today, society hops into bed immediately and doesn't take the time to develop the connection, the shared interests and values.....focusing on the physical rather than everything else.

'Course...I'm old , so what do I know...lol!

Quoting Msprose:

No truer words were ever spoken. If it's there today it will be there next week things take time.

No truer words were ever spoken. If it's there today it will be there next week things take time.

Quoting HDsweetcheeks:

I prefer to hang you in my bedroom : )

But your absolutley right Charlie (cringing as I say it) Both parties have to feel it, both have to be at the same place at the same time. Everyone wants that Demi Moore Patrick Swayze Ghost love..but you cant make someone feel that way...so now back to the important stufff..like gutting you..

I prefer to hang you in my bedroom : )

But your absolutley right Charlie (cringing as I say it) Both parties have to feel it, both have to be at the same place at the same time. Everyone wants that Demi Moore Patrick Swayze Ghost love..but you cant make someone feel that way...so now back to the important stufff..like gutting you..